How Patience Can Be Your Secret Weapon
Imagine you’re in the middle of an argument with your partner about an annoying habit they have that you’ve already told them about a number of times. You’re fuming because maybe you hate repeating yourself or feel like they don’t care about your concerns. As you wait for them to come home or show up for a date all the things you want to scream at them flood your mind. Each thought makes me even angrier. There’s a small part of your mind that tells you to calm down and really get to why you’re upset. You might ignore it and proceed to lay into your partner when you see them. While you tell them about themselves for indulging in the dumb habit, you notice their body tense but their eyes gloss over. They aren’t really hearing you. They just want you to shut up.
Why the Truth Beats Lying
Do you remember the first lie you told? Probably not because it was most likely about something insignificant by comparison now. I’m sure when that lie escaped your lips you had no intention of hurting the person receiving the lie. Or maybe you did. We weren’t there. However at some point, we learned that lying was an option that may make the consequences lighter if not go away completely. Does that always provide the desired result? No but it’s fun to dream, right?
How I Learned to Break Up First
Going against my intuition has never served me but I tried to make it work with people who didn’t deserve it. Even though I knew things had to change, I wouldn’t take any action. I can admit that I don’t like telling people ‘No’. When I started to feel embarrassed to tell friends and family about one of my partners, I knew I needed to break up and for good.
How to Buy a House Without Going Crazy
Once it dawned on me that he was in fact serious, I accepted and gave him one stipulation: we must move. At the time, we were living with family and I was OVER it. We (damn it, I) needed our own space. He said “Is that all? Ok, find a realtor and we’ll buy a house. Now can we watch Insecure?”
The Truth About Living Together
There are millions of little revelations you'll have after moving in. But because no one has time for that, here's 5 truths rarely anyone tells you about what happens after you get the keys to your new shared home.
5 Discoveries After a Challenge
So during my down time I was scrolling through Pinterest (go ahead and follow me there!) and found a 31 day self love challenge by BlessingManifesting.com. I love a goal oriented challenge so joined in.
How to Stay Calm While Working
As someone who has to work for a living and stays in her feelings, work can be rough. But I don't always have the luxury of tending to my feelings during working hours. I know I'm not alone!
How to Own Your No
Saying yes to everything leaves you open for lots of possibilities. But not all opportunities are right for you. That's why there's another option when trying to make a decision. It's to take the time to form the word no.
5 Affirmations When You Feel Low
Life isn't all sunshine and lollipops. Sometimes it can be a real pain in the ass and that can take a toll on your self esteem. But there's a tool (among many others) you could use to lift your spirits. That's right, affirmations!
Step 29: Go Through the Pain
Pain is unavoidable. It'll show up early and be one of the most consistent feelings in your life. By the time you reach adulthood, you've been hurt often and in different ways. Do you remember the first time you fell off a bike? Probably. Or the first time you were teased? Maybe. Or even the first time you realized someone lied to you?
Step 28: Move When Prompted
At some point you will be in a position for far too long. Whether it's a job, a relationship or a body size, it's possible to be in a rut.
24 Lessons for 24 Years
I'm not about to assume y'all know me so I'll just tell you what today is. Today is my birthday. As the title gives away, yes I am 24. I've made a lot of decisions, met a lot of people and spent a lot of time learning about this here life I have. Now it's time to sit down at this desk and give you all some golden nuggets I've picked up on the way.
Step 27: Patience: The Remix
The women in my life have all told me not to grow up too fast. Don't move too fast. Don't make such hasty decisions. My young mind thought they had no idea what they were talking about. The best things come to those who speed!
I was sorely mistaken.
Step 26: Don't Take it Personal
We can take offense to anything. A cough, a note, and a decision all have the power to send us into a tailspin. I know all about finding fault with an ill-timed sigh. Who else worries about whether everyone hates you?
Step 25: Take Risks
People will always be in favor of having a plan and following the rules. It helps the decision making process go by smoother. When there's a playbook, you can breathe. Someone did all the hard work for you and all you have to do is adhere to it. That sounds amazing right?
Step 24: Put In the Work
Sometimes I wish I could fast forward through all of the tedious parts of life. Paperwork won't bog me down. The years of education would fly by in a snap. I could spend my time enjoying all the fun activities and bask in the success. But that doesn't happen in this world.
Step 23: Accept Rejection
One of the worst things someone can tell you is no. No is painful, not because you're selfish but because you worked hard to get a yes. It's especially hard if you were waiting for an answer.
Step 22: Stop Judging
If no one asked for your opinion on their personal lives, please don't give it out. It's perfectly OK to stay silent in this instance.
Step 21: Distract Yourself
The world doesn't stop turning, even when you want it to. Something crummy happens to us everyday. You lost your job. You're fighting with a friend. You spilled coffee on your favorite white shirt. Eventually you'll be filled to the brim with all the negative emotions fighting to take over.
Step 20: Roll With the Punches
At this point you've been thrown into a circumstance, well, not of your liking. Someone has pulled you onstage, asked you to present first even though you're sorely unprepared or even included you in a lie to a family member. Sometimes your aunt doesn't need to know how much your cousin drank from her liquor cabinet. So what do you do?