Why the Truth Beats Lying
Do you remember the first lie you told? Probably not because it was most likely about something insignificant by comparison now. I’m sure when that lie escaped your lips you had no intention of hurting the person receiving the lie. Or maybe you did. We weren’t there. However at some point, we learned that lying was an option that may make the consequences lighter if not go away completely. Does that always provide the desired result? No but it’s fun to dream, right?
How I Learned to Break Up First
Going against my intuition has never served me but I tried to make it work with people who didn’t deserve it. Even though I knew things had to change, I wouldn’t take any action. I can admit that I don’t like telling people ‘No’. When I started to feel embarrassed to tell friends and family about one of my partners, I knew I needed to break up and for good.
How to Stay Calm While Working
As someone who has to work for a living and stays in her feelings, work can be rough. But I don't always have the luxury of tending to my feelings during working hours. I know I'm not alone!
How to Own Your No
Saying yes to everything leaves you open for lots of possibilities. But not all opportunities are right for you. That's why there's another option when trying to make a decision. It's to take the time to form the word no.
5 Affirmations When You Feel Low
Life isn't all sunshine and lollipops. Sometimes it can be a real pain in the ass and that can take a toll on your self esteem. But there's a tool (among many others) you could use to lift your spirits. That's right, affirmations!
Step 29: Go Through the Pain
Pain is unavoidable. It'll show up early and be one of the most consistent feelings in your life. By the time you reach adulthood, you've been hurt often and in different ways. Do you remember the first time you fell off a bike? Probably. Or the first time you were teased? Maybe. Or even the first time you realized someone lied to you?
Step 28: Move When Prompted
At some point you will be in a position for far too long. Whether it's a job, a relationship or a body size, it's possible to be in a rut.
Step 27: Patience: The Remix
The women in my life have all told me not to grow up too fast. Don't move too fast. Don't make such hasty decisions. My young mind thought they had no idea what they were talking about. The best things come to those who speed!
I was sorely mistaken.
Step 26: Don't Take it Personal
We can take offense to anything. A cough, a note, and a decision all have the power to send us into a tailspin. I know all about finding fault with an ill-timed sigh. Who else worries about whether everyone hates you?
Step 25: Take Risks
People will always be in favor of having a plan and following the rules. It helps the decision making process go by smoother. When there's a playbook, you can breathe. Someone did all the hard work for you and all you have to do is adhere to it. That sounds amazing right?
Step 24: Put In the Work
Sometimes I wish I could fast forward through all of the tedious parts of life. Paperwork won't bog me down. The years of education would fly by in a snap. I could spend my time enjoying all the fun activities and bask in the success. But that doesn't happen in this world.
Step 23: Accept Rejection
One of the worst things someone can tell you is no. No is painful, not because you're selfish but because you worked hard to get a yes. It's especially hard if you were waiting for an answer.
Step 22: Stop Judging
If no one asked for your opinion on their personal lives, please don't give it out. It's perfectly OK to stay silent in this instance.
Step 21: Distract Yourself
The world doesn't stop turning, even when you want it to. Something crummy happens to us everyday. You lost your job. You're fighting with a friend. You spilled coffee on your favorite white shirt. Eventually you'll be filled to the brim with all the negative emotions fighting to take over.
Step 20: Roll With the Punches
At this point you've been thrown into a circumstance, well, not of your liking. Someone has pulled you onstage, asked you to present first even though you're sorely unprepared or even included you in a lie to a family member. Sometimes your aunt doesn't need to know how much your cousin drank from her liquor cabinet. So what do you do?
Step 19: Learn to Plan
We're all a mess. And life seems to conspire against us all. There's school/work, family, friends, bills social obligations as well as personal time that need to be dealt with. How can you deal with it all without running in front of a moving car?
Step 18: Use Envy for Good
Some emotions aren't inherently bad. Sit back down. Don't click away. I'm not bullshitting you. Some feelings, even the bad ones, can be turned around.
Step 17: Know Your Boundaries
We're all people pleasers on some level. There's at least one person we don't want to disappoint, one person who's opinion really matters to us, or one person who has a way of talking us into something we may not what to do. But sometimes we end up being yes-men.
Step 16: Let It Go
What's that quote about swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die? That's what it's like when we don't let anything go. When we don't let go, it hurts us. Meanwhile, whoever you're mad at walks around your fetal positioned body like "what happened to them?"
Step 15: Let it Out
Stress comes from everywhere and if you're like me, you're realizing that it never stops. Sometimes you get overloaded and that's normal! But how we deal with stress isn't always the healthiest. If you find yourself bottling up your emotions, you're in danger.