Step 14: Stay In Your Lane
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 14: Stay In Your Lane

We don't really know what goes on in these people's lives. That's part of the reason why we follow them on Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Snapchat, etc. We want to know the secret formula like we're evil geniuses with a sinister plot. That's how we look when we get jealous. Seething, green monster ready to devour our better off peers. 

Read More
Step 11: Leave the Pretty Opportunities Alone
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 11: Leave the Pretty Opportunities Alone

During my search a woman posing as a major online job board representative gave me the bells and whistles for a staffing position. She sent over a job description, interview questions, FAQ, and contract. Great right?Fast forward 6 months of training and waiting for payroll documents and I start to get nervous. Then shit hits the fan. Western Union transfers begin. Confused?

Read More
Step 10: Speak Up
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 10: Speak Up

Now, I'm seen and heard. Now I ask to stay connected to employers who turn me down on LinkedIn. Now my voice doesn't shake when I speak. And that's all because I started, as simply as this sounds, talking.

Read More
Step 9: Avoid the Petty
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 9: Avoid the Petty

It is so hard to take the high road. Turn the other cheek. Smile at your enemy and walk away. Or even help them. But to be a better person, sometimes you need to do just that.

Read More
Step 8: Be Open
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 8: Be Open

If someone would have told me that I would be in a completely different city trying to juggle my home life and my budding career all before finishing college, I would have walked away. Just shaking my head and letting out an annoying laugh while I walk away. Well imaginary person, you were right! And I was rude to let that sound out of my mouth.

Read More
Step 7: Breathe
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 7: Breathe

Throughout the summer, I had been seeing a therapist. Because there is a super black woman complex, I was ashamed that I couldn't just pray, take a nap and do what I needed to do. However after many strong suggestions and sleep deprived nights, I got into an Uber and sat down on that comfy couch to cry in front of a stranger.

Read More
Step 6: Get Out of My Own Head
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 6: Get Out of My Own Head

Everyday I have to battle negative thoughts and more often than not there's no real reason for it. Sometimes I get so involved in soothing my panicked mind that I forget to live my life. I forget my responsibilities and just cry. That's been happening for the past few months.

Read More
Step 5: Compassion For Oneself
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 5: Compassion For Oneself

When you meet me, I'm probably going to be the nicest person you encountered that day. I step aside, hold open doors and always apologize for bumping unto you. My niceness is extended to everyone but myself. I'm at my most cruel and unforgiving when dealing with myself.

Read More
Step 4: Stay Consistent
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 4: Stay Consistent

On my quest for success of every kind, I get bombarded with advice on how to achieve it. One of the main ones is to make good habits. By good habits, they mean doing uncomfortable, hard things repeatedly until it becomes second nature. That doesn't mean you'll like those awful things over time. No one likes being responsible. And if they do, they are usually devoid of spontaneity even in the smallest sense. It just means you'll appreciate the success when you get it.

Read More
Step 3: Be More Selective
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 3: Be More Selective

Going with the flow has been ingrained in my mind that it's the ideal behavior. Something comes up?

That's cool.

Deadline get changed?

Whatever.

Need to make a group decision?

Whatever y'all decide is cool.

Read More
Step 2: Stop Apologizing
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 2: Stop Apologizing

However when it comes to me, "I'm sorry" is one of my top said phrases. I know it's annoying to hear that every time one of my quirks slip out. While it's endearing in the first encounters, it soon becomes suspicious. No one can be that nice and apologetic all of the time.

Read More
Step 1: Patience
Advice Evie Advice Evie

Step 1: Patience

I think I might have overestimated my calming nature. Usually I can breathe out negativity and a smile will emerge. However people have found a way to knock all the wind out of me through the phone.

Read More