How to Own Your No
Saying yes to everything leaves you open for lots of possibilities. But not all opportunities are right for you. That's why there's another option when trying to make a decision. It's to take the time to form the word no.
Step 10: Speak Up
Now, I'm seen and heard. Now I ask to stay connected to employers who turn me down on LinkedIn. Now my voice doesn't shake when I speak. And that's all because I started, as simply as this sounds, talking.
Step 9: Avoid the Petty
It is so hard to take the high road. Turn the other cheek. Smile at your enemy and walk away. Or even help them. But to be a better person, sometimes you need to do just that.
Step 7: Breathe
Throughout the summer, I had been seeing a therapist. Because there is a super black woman complex, I was ashamed that I couldn't just pray, take a nap and do what I needed to do. However after many strong suggestions and sleep deprived nights, I got into an Uber and sat down on that comfy couch to cry in front of a stranger.